Manda Rae

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I rarely use this to just blog. I’m going to just blog now, so you can all just ignore this if it’s not to your liking.

Warning. Contents under pressure.

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Coster-Waldau, who plays Jaime, acknowledged in an interview with The Daily Beast that ‘for some people, it’s just going to look like rape,’ but ‘the intention is that it’s not just that; it’s about two people who’ve had this connection for so many years, and much of it is physical, and much of it has had to be kept secret, and this is almost the last thing left now. It’s him trying to force her back and make him whole again because of his stupid hand.’ So, is it rape? ‘Yes, and no. There are moments where she gives in, and moments where she pushes him away. But it’s not pretty.’ Just my opinion here, but if your answer to ‘Is it rape?’ is ‘yes and no,’ then it’s probably rape.

Here’s What the Writer and Director of Game of Thrones' Controversial Rape Scene (Plus GRRM) Have to Say About It (via themarysue)

The more HBO tries to normalize rape and just shrug it off as “a thing that happens,” the more I feel like chucking my Song of Ice and Fire volumes at the television. 

I don’t know why this series is so fraught with unnecessary violation, but it’s becoming pretty sickening, and increasingly rape-apologetic. 

(via themarysue)


Major life events in comics!
I document so much of my life in comics, it seemed … lazy?… to neglect such a big part of it. I’ve been trying to get this one out for a while, but i’m not prone to sappiness or self-aggrandizing (despite what making endless comics about myself might imply) so i had a hard time figuring out an approach.

So i went with honesty :)
Last year Lucy Knisley told the story of her engagement in a heartfelt and open comic that i really respected. I respect ALL of her work, her comics are awesome, if you’ve never checked them out you totally should. In sitting down to tell my own story it made me think about what getting married means to me. I’m sure it means something slightly different to everyone, but is by no means any less meaningful. But crystallizing that idea helped me here.

I was sweaty and gross and said “Yeah. Sure.” and Jason didn’t change his mind. I think we’re gonna be alright :)

This is adorable. 

I’ve never been female. But I have been black my whole life. I can perhaps offer some insight from that perspective. There are many similar social issues related to access to equal opportunity that we find in the black community, as well as the community of women in a white male dominate society…

When I look at — throughout my life — I’ve known that I wanted to do astrophysics since I was 9 years old…I got to see how the world around me reacted to my expressions of these ambitions. All I can say is, the fact that I wanted to be a scientist, an astrophysicist was hands down the path of most resistance through the forces of society.

Anytime I expressed this interest, teachers would say, ‘Oh, don’t you wanna be an athlete?’ I want to become someone that was outside of the paradigm of expectations of the people in power. Fortunately, my depth of interest of the universe was so deep and so fuel enriched that everyone of these curve balls that I was thrown, and fences built in front of me, and hills that I had to climb, I just reach for more fuel, and I just kept going.

Now, here I am, one of the most visible scientists in the land, and I wanna look behind me and say, ‘Where are the others who might have been this,’ and they’re not there! …I happened to survive and others did not simply because of forces of society that prevented it at every turn. At every turn.

…My life experience tells me that when you don’t find blacks, when you don’t find women in the sciences, I know that these forces are real, and I had to survive them in order to get where I am today.

So before we start talking about genetic differences, you gotta come up with a system where there’s equal opportunity, then we can have that conversation.

Neil DeGrasse Tyson in response to a question posed by Lawrence Summers, former Treasury Security and Harvard University President

"What’s up with chicks and science?"

Are there genetic differences between men and women, explain why more men are in science.

(via magnius159)

This was beautiful

(via tallestsilver)

The fact that people still think that STEM subjects are still genetically in men’s favor, in this day and age, proves to me more than anything that we need to send these systems of oppression crashing down ASAP. Women and POC are not as present in the sciences for lack of trying.

(via themarysue)



Jessica Rey presents the history of the evolution of the swimsuit including the origins of its design, how it has changed overtime and the post-feminist association of the bikini symbolizing female empowerment. She refers to neuro-scientific studies revealing how male brains react to images of scantily clad women versus images of women deemed modest and what the implications of the results are for women in society.

(Note: As the OP, I disagree with Rey’s approach to putting the onus on women to alter ourselves rather than to alter the male perception of women – brain wiring has plenty to do with socialization and if we worked against the culture that fuels men’s objectification of women, women’s clothing choices would matter far less in terms of how men perceive us and determine how to interact with us).

Jessica Rey - The Evolution of the Swim Suit

bolding mine

Sex positive feminism can go in two different directions. Of course women should not be held responsible for what they feel comfortable wearing, and they have no control of how those clothes affect male perception. On the other hand, however, choosing to dress scantily as a way to express your sexuality, and connecting that sexuality to some form of empowerment, has some problematic implications. A woman’s power is not just determined by how much pleasure she can give her partner, but how much pleasure she can give herself, and a lot of the times when women express their sexual empowerment, men go apeshit to encourage it because they still believe that letting women do what they want with their bodies still revolves around their boners, ie not actually believing women have sexual agency and still feeling just as entitled to their bodies. 

This idea of agency only being determined by sexuality is ESPECIALLY problematic when we consider how this has manifested in media. Some women find strength in films like Sucker Punch, and I know a lot of people still adore Joss Whedon for writing “strong female characters,” but these representations of women who are both ninjas and sex kittens are designed around male power fantasy, not female. Men design these women for their own pleasure, not for women who want to be free from sexual pressure and expectation. 

(via fandomsandfeminism)

I twittered about this earlier, but sometimes it feels as though talking about misogyny in this industry is like dealing with Groundhog Day: there seems to be a continuous reset, a collective male amnesia around the issue. As if, when a woman speaks out, it’s for the first time and everyone is shocked. Just shocked, I tell you. Sexism exists? OH MY GOD.

Veteran writer Marjorie Liu on sexual harassment/misogny in the comics industry—and the collective amnesia that hits much of the industry every time the topic ever gets broached. (via robot6)

Well, this is just further evidence that people think that just because we don’t live in the 50’s anymore, we’re in a post-sexist society (I’ve heard several assholes say that we’ve evolved into a post-feminist society, which is….what?). When people get this “surprised” over news of sexism, it seems like they’re all saying, “What, THAT old thing? I thought we fixed that AGES ago!” Then they’ll make it appear as if they’re doing their best to fix it, when often “fixing the problem” just means acknowledging it exists in this momentary example, and then moving on without really changing anything. 

(via albinwonderland)